Posted in adoptee, Adoptee Thoughts, adoption, Blogging, my writing, poetry

Dear… Man Yee.

A piece I wrote on my birthday this year:

You are enough.

You were loved.

You are still loved.

She thinks of you all the time, especially on your birthday.

Today is your birthday.

Today you turn 39.

Today your First Mother, your life giver, is 56.

Today she will probably pause to think of you.

And mourn you.

Today you can mourn freely.

Mourn for what could’ve been.

Today you can celebrate.

Celebrate all that you do have.

To mourn and to celebrate.

That is what it means to be an adoptee.

A child displaced from one family.

A child placed with another family.

Mourning and dancing can coincide on the same coin.

Tears can come with sorrow and joy.

Express them freely, Man Yee.

It is your right.

Posted in Blogging

Adoptee Space – A Poem

Adoption is…

A process of changing one’s identity

Trauma

Overcome it. I will.

But it’s real

So real that sometimes we can’t see it

But I see it now

Dragging myself from the fog

Painful

Necessary

Cleansing

Dare I say… beautiful

Adoption is pain

Adoption is change

Grateful for the people it brought in to my life

Grateful for the perspective it brings

I will speak my tale

Speak it true

All of it

The good

The ugly

It’s time for honesty

Not least of all to me.

Posted in Blogging, poetry

Where Are Your Listening Ears?

Turn on your listening ears

Open your looking eyes

Unpack your kind hearts

Hold out your gentle hands

What happened to your listening ears

Did you pack them away?

Turn them on again

Please.

Yes.

No.

Listen, please.

I know you’re hungry

I know you’re tired

Just turn on those ears, please

Yes, I can give you a huggle

No, I can’t hold all of you

At the same time

Yes, I have so many cuddles!

Cuddles for everyone!

Just please turn on your ears

Open you’re looking eyes

Unpack your kind hearts

Hold out your gentle hands

And let’s have a beautiful day!

~ MW 2022

Posted in Blogging, my writing, poetry

Words By Me – A Poem

Something I wrote last year

I write words

Sometimes they elude me

They trundle down the black hole

Of my thoughts

Sometimes I can patch them together In a semi-coherent loop

Loop the loop

Sing a song of sixpence…

Wait, this isn’t a nursery rhyme

Why do rhymes rhyme

Language is a weird beast

It lets you feast on the thoughts

Of mankind

And then store them away

For posterity’s sake

Take the cake and eat it too

Have my words

Have your words

Send them spiralling out

To the world

And then peruse them

Use them

Throw them out

And start again

Words

By me.

⁃ M. Withey 2020