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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 10

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Your views on drugs and alcohol

Drugs and alcohol?
Well let’s go alphabetically and touch on what I think about alcohol.
Moderation.  That’s the name of the game.  I drink alcohol occasionally, at a nice dinner, or if I’ve been invited to a tour of wineries.  Because who doesn’t taste the wine on a wine tour?
However, I don’t drink just for the sake of drinking.  You see, I actually lack the enzyme that helps break down alcohol – alcohol dehydrogenase – which results in me getting a flushed reaction when drinking alcohol.  This can happen even after one glass of wine.  So, I don’t tend to drink more than one glass because of this.

I see no need to drink so much that I can’t see straight [I have enough problems with my eyes without doing that].  Though I have been drunk several times. But, both times were unintentional, and from drinking something stronger than wine – vodka jelly shots come to mind.

When I was younger, 18-20, I did go clubbing and I did drink a bit – vodka crusiers mainly, with a few Smirnoff’s, and cowboy shots thrown in.  But, I got over that quick – and my group of friends were sensible drinkers.  Nowadays I drink as I believe, in moderation.  There have been a couple of stressful times in the last few years that I bought myself some Cruisers and had two in one sitting…but, I had food with them…so that was alright.

So.  Alcohol.  Drink in moderation and you’ll be fine.

Oh.  But…DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE.  It’s not worth it.

Okay, on a more sober note.  Drugs.  Now let’s assume that this is not referring to medication.  Because my opinion on medication is: Use it if you are prescribed it by your doctor, and don’t be an idiot about it.

But, drugs, as in illicit drugs?  Well, my views?  They’re harmful.  Period  Don’t take them. Don’t be an idiot.  Just don’t.  I mean, I understand that they’re addictive, and once someone has started it’s difficult to break the cycle.  Here’s an idea.  Don’t take them in the first place and don’t let people pressure you into taking them. [I know there are situations where it’s something that can’t be controlled, ie. infants being born with addictions, so they’re kind of lost from the beginning…]

What about medicines that become addictive?  Well, go and do what Alex O’Loughlin did, and book yourself into rehab as soon as it becomes a problem.  Don’t give into it, do something about it.  

And all this business about medicinal maurijuana? I’m sorry.  But, I don’t think it should be used for medicinal purposes.  Unless they can get it to a point where it is medically viable and proven to be so on a sample size that is statisically viable.

But, anyway…my views on drugs?  Mostly negative.  Don’t do drugs.

[This has been a late night rant…ha.]



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Inspiration! Or is writing in first person from a guy’s point of view really that hard?

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Let me give you this artsy photo of Pierre Bouvier to inspire you…in some way.  Not sure how, but just go with it.
So, thanks to random Simple Plan happenings I finally got some inspiration for Jars of Clay.  No, no relation to the band.  Jars of Clay is my latest Simple Plan story.  By latest, I began writing it a year ago when I was in one of my most creative periods.  I came up with several other ideas during that period as well, none of which are cooperating with me at the moment. 

To be honest, if the guys weren’t in the studio, this particular story may have stagnated; but seeing the photo updates from the studio has given me a push and dropped ideas in my mind again.

Pause to enjoy this photo of Pat, Chuck and Pierre….

Anyway, that’s actually not what I wanted to touch on in this post.  Jars of Clay is written in first person point of view, which isn’t as easy as some would think.  First of all, writing from this pov means you can only write from the pov’s point of view.  So, you can’t get inside the head of other characters.  I found that difficult when I began writing years ago, but I’ve improved sight unseen.

The other thing that was the norm in the early days of my writing was that I tended to write from the female perspective, or when I did switch to a male there was no discernible difference.  Which made for wooden characters.  Now though, I believe I’m improving my ability to give my characters their own voice.  It’s still not easy and I’m sure most of my narrators still have some of me in them, but I’m trying.  
But the biggest thing is trying to write in the voice of a male.  Without sounding like a female trying to write as a male…if you get my meaning.  I mean, maybe I should just take a leaf out of that author who wrote A Song of Ice and Fire and remind myself that I am writing from the perspective of a person who has wants and needs and desires and goals that are all their own and no one else’s.  And not worry too much about gender, except when it comes to those things only certain genders can do.  If you know what I mean…  
I’m not really sure where I’m going with this, so have one more unnecessary photo of Simple Plan. 

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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 8

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Something you’re currently worrying about

To be honest? I’m worrying about my health, which isn’t hard to do considering the way my body is at the moment.  Feels like my hundredth bad cold in the last few months; my hand kinda swelled up probably due to having my bandage on too tight; and my left knee/leg is giving me grief.  
What is there not to worry about?  On top of that it worries me when it makes other people worry about me.  If that makes any sense.  
I don’t know.  I try not to let things worry me too much.  When I do feel like I’m worrying too much I stop and pause and remember that I don’t have to do this alone.  I have God.  And I have my family and friends.  
But it is easy to get down on oneself.  I feel I’m letting myself down and others sometimes.  I mean, I know I can’t control getting sick but I’ve already had so much time off work….it makes me feel bad.  I mean, it’s the hazard of working in my chosen profession, but it doesn’t make it any easier to feel good about it.
I love my job; that’s a given but you would think that over the four almost five years I’ve been in the industry I’d have built an immunity to getting really sick.  
It sucks that I get sick so easily and then add this whole getting tendinitis thing in my left wrist and the whole of my left side of my body being stuffed-ish.  It’s frustrating.
So, yeah that’s what’s worrying me.  My health and how its impacting my ability to work and actually enjoy my work life and feel like I’m contributing to my full potential.  
(I know there’s nothing to feel bad about.  If I’m sick, I’m sick and there’s no point in making it worse and/or making everyone else sick)
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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 7

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Your opinion on cheating on people.

This shouldn’t even be an opinion.  It should be a fact:
CHEATING ON SOMEONE IS WRONG. End of.  
There is NO excuse to cheat on the person whom has trusted their heart to you.  
Let’s set aside the notion of an open relationship because in that situation cheating isn’t an issue.  (Though I don’t agree with open relationships…I think that defeats the purpose of a relationship with someone.)
Cheating causes harm.  If you’re in a situation where you think that cheating is ok…if your relationship has got to such a point that you believe it’s the only way out…then you have a problem.
Don’t allow your relationship to get to this point.  Instead TALK to your partner, work through the issues together, and if you finally cannot reconcile your issues, then make the decision to part ways.  
Do NOT cheat.  It is not the solution.  
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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 6

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The person that you like and why you like them

The person I like? Is this in reference to the person I’m in a relationship with because if so….

That would be my boyfriend.  On an aside it sounds weird saying boyfriend, considering our ages….
Anyway, this isn’t answering the question.  So…why I like them.  Well, let’s get something clear, first.
Liking and loving someone are actually separate things.  You can love someone without liking them.  But, it’s hard to like someone you don’t love.  With that in mind, here’s why I like my man.
He gets me. Even when I don’t understand myself.  By that, I mean he can tell when something is going on with me and he draws me out when I need it most.  And I think that’s a great thing.
To think we’ve been together just under four months and he gets me like that.
Oh and I like his beard 😉
Haha. 🙂 
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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 5

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5 things that irritate you about the opposite/same sex

I think I’m going to just change this to 5 things that irritate me about other people because I honestly can’t think of ten things that irritate me about specific genders.

I don’t think I can even think of five.

Anyway, here goes…
What irritates me about people? 
First of all, people who cut you off on the road for no reason at all.  Basically Perth drivers irritate me….
Second, people who are arrogant and think they are all that.  When really they’re not.
Third, know-it-alls.  I am guilty of being this type of person though, so I’m trying not to judge.  
Four, atheists who verbally attack Christians for their beliefs.
Five, anti-vaccine advocates.  
Well that was actually quite easy… 
And definitely pertinent to my thoughts at the moment.  


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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 4

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What you wear to bed

Getting really personal, hey?
Well this really depends on the season, or weather, or what I feel like.  But, generally I wear nighties, or pyjamas,  or tracksuit pants if it’s really cold, like last night.  Even with my electric blanket on…
When it’s really hot…well.  Usually just a light nighty.  Though, if I’m going to be entirely honest, I have on occasion gone just the underwear route.  
Too much information?
Well, I am into honesty.  🙂
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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 3

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What kind of person attracts you?

Attraction is a complex thing, because it includes many different emotions.  Obviously society seems hung up on sexual attraction and how people respond to the opposite or same-sex, and my answer to what kind of person attracts me in that sense is probably many-fold.
In hindsight, I’d have to say from face value someone who isn’t Asian (for anyone who doesn’t know, I’m Chinese born Australian), someone who is taller than me, someone who has a personality that matches mine somewhat.  Someone who is willing to allow me to be myself and not want to change me.  And someone who loves God.
And I’m blessed to have that one person in my life that fits all that.  
Moving onto general attraction though.  Because we can describe the way we make friends and acquaintances in similar ways.  We are attracted to people platonically as well and that’s a more difficult thing to explain.  
But then again, perhaps not.
I’m attracted to people who share common morals, values and beliefs; people who have a sense of humour; people who love God and are passionate about serving Him.  People who can sing are a bonus 😉 
All my friends and acquaintances these days fit the bill.  So, I’m blessed in that way.  🙂 

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30 Day Blogging Challenge – Day 2

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How have you changed in the past 2 years?


Taking stock of where I’m at right at this moment, compared to last year, is quite enlightening.  I feel a little more confident and definitely a lot happier and content than I was at the same time in 2013.  And definitely more so than I was at the same time in 2014.
I’ve grown closer to God as well, and my vision of the future, at least as far as the next year is concerned, has a lot more clarity than before.  
Sounds vague, hey?  Well, to put it in a nutshell: I’ve gotten closer to God and am more content than I was two years ago. Because as we all know happiness is fleeting.  True joy is everlasting.